Today, I’m super excited to welcome the musings of a guest to nateriggs.com. D.J Collier makes his home up in Delaware, Ohio. He’s a musician, a poet and a fellow Dad who loves to listen to (and tell) stories. You can find him blogging regularly over at Ragamuffin’s Rants
Without further ado, here’s DJ.
Social Media, or whatever the new buzz words of the week are, is a conversation.
I feel silly saying this, because it is something that should have been learned in kindergarten, but a conversation is a two-way thing. I speak, you listen and when you speak, I listen. We exchange ideas and, hopefully, walk away the better for it. Heck my kids at age 3 and 4 know this. Relationships are built on conversations.
So it isn’t a huge leap to say Social Media is another form of relationship only because you can eavesdrop on the conversations other people have, you can feel like you have a relationship with that person. Just because we follow each other on Twitter, or you put me in a circle on Google+, doesn’t mean that you know me, or that I would be inclined to help promote something. In the past week I have received 24 messages asking me to help promote a band, recommend a service, ask for donations and to push this all onto my friends/followers. I want to say “We’ve known each other many years, but this is the first time you ever came to me for counsel, or for help. I can’t remember the last time that you invited me to your house for a cup of coffee, even though my wife is godmother to your only child. But let’s be frank here. You never wanted my friendship”. <read as Brando ala Vito Corleone>
I will gladly broadcast/advocate for my friends but not for someone who hasn’t taken an interest in me. I know this is a terribly egocentric thing to admit but I think most people will agree. If I don’t know you and what you are doing, I could be leading my friends into a Ponzi scheme, child porn, or worse (ICP videos). So I am adopting, officially, because I think I have always done this, the Godfather Social Media guidelines:
1. Be my friend in word and deed: Seriously I am interested in you, I am an extrovert and love people to get to know me, and let me know you.
2. Don’t harm the innocents: Don’t ask me to push content I would object to, you are my friend now and you should know better.
3. Make me an offer I can’t refuse: Ask me to help in a way that makes it about me, I love helping others.
4. It is strictly business: If I do refuse, it isn’t personal. It’s probably because you didn’t do one, or all, of the first three things, or what you are asking me to do will damage my reputation.
The best advice is to just be real, be a friend, and once you are a friend than most people will be glad to help you. I couldn’t think of a use for my favorite Godfather quote “Leave the gun, take the cannoli” so my challenge to you is to help me create a number five with that quote.
What is your response to that quote?